February 2012
2 posts
“9. Are men in crisis? Yes, but not the one that Hannah Rosen wrote about in “The...”
– The Good Men Project ( taken from: ‘ The Atlantic and GMP ’, full article here.)
January 2012
15 posts
Chasing Beauty: An Addict's Memoir →
I am telling you my side of the story so you understand this—I am not a good a person when I am beautiful. I don’t want it to be so important — but I think it’s important to you, as guys, so it’s important to me. And this is my story, not every woman’s and I’m sure there are plenty of beautiful women who are not like me either. But when I’m beautiful—or close to beautiful—it’s all I think about....
Why I Advocate for Men’s Rights →
goodmenproject:
Men deserve more voices talking for them, writes GirlWritesWhat, and that’s why she’s doing it.
I’m not a traditionalist woman. I’m bisexual. I’m kind of a dirty old man when it comes to my attitudes about sex, and I’m masculine enough in some ways to pull it off without ever having been burdened with the label of slut. Moreover, I write erotic fiction, much of it with bi-male...
Good Men Project - Seven Years Gone: Manhood, My... →
onehundreddates:
Check it out everyone! The Good Men Project ran my post from last week about my mother. This is the first thing I’ve ever submitted to an outside publication and it’s actually up! I’m so proud. You didn’t raise the worst writer ever, Mom!
THE GOOD MEN PROJECT: 21ST-CENTURY MASCULINITY:... →
goodmenproject:
Pop Culture Is Killing Us
I’ve Got the T-Shirt and the Trauma Response to Go With It
The Happy Hour Miscarriage in Paradise
My Ex-Wife’s Wedding: Best. Wedding….
Shuffling Feet: A Black Man’s View of... →
goodmenproject:
A response to the argument of Schroedinger’s Rapist and an examination of anti-black racism.
This morning I made a reference to the fact that men are often assumed to be potential rapists as an example of how sexism negatively affects men as well as women. The argument, commonly referred to as “Schroedinger’s Rapist”, goes something like this: because you can’t know for...
A Dark Road →
goodmenproject:
Tom Matlack gives a very personal account of Civil Rights in a time and place where not much was civil–Mississippi, 1964
One hot summer night in 1964 my twenty-six year old father drove a borrowed car down a dark road in Mississippi. He could hear the chirping of the cicadas, the swish of the tires on the road, and above them all, the thumping of his heart. Dad was driving...
ZeeZee's Corner: Learning Other People's... →
zeezeescorner:
Lisa Hickey writes about the importance of learning what particular words mean to different people in her article for The Good Men Project, The Ethics of Vocabulary (Sexual and Otherwise). I can’t stop thinking about it. Learning how the same words in any given language actually mean different…
GRAND PIANOS CRASH TOGETHER: The way my mind works →
plantwhiteroses:
I am constantly filling in the blanks, trying to figure out what people think about me. Mostly I’m sure, rationally speaking, people don’t think about me very much. But my mind fills in the blanks and I imagine they think horrible things about me.
Do you ever feel like you are constantly on the…
December 2011
23 posts
We can't end heterosexism or cissexism without...
just-smith:
and yes, that includes misandry.
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Rapists, I Have Known →
goodmenproject:
More from The Good Men Project Series:The Presumption Of Male Guilt
Lisa Hickey believes that the “presumption of male guilt” is equally damaging to both men and women.
One day, when I was 22 years old, I was walking to the bus station from work, deep woods to the left of me, a fairly busy road to the right. I see a guy up ahead coming towards me, slightly older than me, ...
clarity + chaos: Rape Culture Awareness [TW] →
clarityandchaos:
Over at the Good Men Project, Nikki Brown is asking the important question: Why Are So Many Good Men Accepting of Rape Culture?
I already wrote about the topic yesterday. I hope I made it clear that in agreeing with Schwyzer’s point about men as potential rapists I do not mean to accept…
Rapists, I Have Known →
goodmenproject:
More from The Good Men Project Series:The Presumption Of Male Guilt
Lisa Hickey believes that the “presumption of male guilt” is equally damaging to both men and women.
One day, when I was 22 years old, I was walking to the bus station from work, deep woods to the left of me, a fairly busy road to the right. I see a guy up ahead coming towards me, slightly older than me, ...
“We were not born critical of existing society. There was a moment in our lives...”
– Howard Zinn (via neonspandex)
Presumption of Male Guilt →
goodmenproject:
‘Knight in Shining Armor’ Syndrome
There’s probably no better place on earth to observe gender dynamics than in a bar on a Friday night.
Read the full article
When Women Fear Men
December 14, 2011 By Lisa Hickey Leave a Comment
Statistics don’t make us safe, Lisa Hickey says. Self-empowerment and facing our fears do.
Read the full article
Being a Dude Is a Good...
The Invisible Gun of Manhood →
goodmenproject:
Men have been handcuffed into suppressing their emotions and fearing the “feminine,” Jeff Perera writes. Now we just need to release our hands and open those clenched fists.
There was a huge response to a recent article in The National Post by writer Christie Blatchford regarding the men of Toronto. It was a call for Toronto to stop being a “City of Sissies.” In response,...
How to Get Dumped by a Hollywood Starlet →
goodmenproject:
Mark Radcliffe reveals how breaking off a short-lived romance can hurt just as much as a long relationship.
First, be sure to have recently gone through a tough breakup. That way you’ll have no interest in meeting anyone new, which of course women can sniff a mile away and are insanely attracted to, especially women who are rising actresses and used to having men chasing...
“Activism does not need to be some kind of organized ‘against’ protest. When my...”
– bell hooks (via radicalsexeducation)
Child Sex Trafficking in the USA: What Really Goes... →
goodmenproject:
A soldier talks about her journey into human trafficking rescue.
Erika Clark is a young, Air Force intelligence analyst whose career was ended by a knee injury and now works with trafficked children in the Washington DC area. The trafficked children are shuttled on a circuit between U.S. cities to avoid detection in the sex trade, where pimps put them on the street and...
“I like to think
he survived in order to find me, in order
to arrive here,...”
– Dorianne Laux, excerpt from Music in the Morning (via holdonmagnolia)
“While I can’t have you, I long for you. I am the kind of person who would miss a...”
– Jeanette Winterson (via anditslove)
November 2011
35 posts
Shipwrecks, Mirrors, and My Dad’s Hero Complex →
goodmenproject:
Gaby Dunn reflects on when her dad’s self-impressed identity complex nearly killed him—and her.
I remember it as the time we all got “shipwrecked.”
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“In 1945, We Had Not Yet Invented Gay People”... →
goodmenproject:
Carsten Fleck created a multimedia project on how 18 gay men and women came out to their families and friends. Here’s Duane Michal’s story.
Listen to the audio and read the Vision Statement»>
Erasing/Seizing Wealth of "The 1%" Cannot Create... →
cultureofresistance:
There may well be a revolution, peaceful or otherwise, based on the outrageous income disparity perpetrated by greedy, non-civic minded capitalists. However, even if their vast monetary wealth were turned over to “the 99%,” divided equally and put to good uses for future generations, the problem is that today’s wealth is almost entirely artificial. It has become digital and...
“Don’t compare yourself to others. Compare yourself to yourself. How about that...”
– Smile, You’re Traveling, Henry Rollins (via paper-sparrows)
“All I See Are White Men”: Confronting Racism in... →
goodmenproject:
Eric Ries wants to talk about racism in the start-up world—without hand-wringing and with an eye towards achievable solutions.
Originally posted as “Racism and Meritocracy” on TechCrunch.
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Unless you’ve been living under a rock, you can’t have missed the recent dust-up over race and Silicon Valley. Like almost every discussion of diversity and meritocracy in this town,...
5 Things an Abused Woman (This Woman) Wants You to... →
goodmenproject:
Sarafina asks only that you not judge her as she challenges the assumptions most people make when they find out she has been abused.
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The Happy Hour Miscarriage in Paradise →
goodmenproject:
How many times can you lose a child without even having one before things change?
She grabbed me as if a trap door had opened beneath her feet.
Her hand trembled, and her face, a shock of white, squirmed and twisted like a squall. I felt something like resentment as her gaze went beyond me, out there to the Atlantic Ocean inhaling the last of the evening sun. I turned to see...